IntroductionThere are various kinds of therapy and counseling approaches which are all aimed at developing, if not treating, the intellectual, emotional and psychological state of every man. Among these counseling methods there is a question about empathizing with the patients. it should be noted that counselors do need to empathize with the patients so as to really understand what they been undergoing through and to recognize the possibilities for their cure. But when do the counselors draw the line from over empathizing? Is there any danger from over empathizing and how can we prevent it?
Counseling and its GoalsCounseling aims to help and teach people how to direct their own lives, make more effective choices, and how to develop the strength to handle the stresses and problems of. Its core revolves around the idea that regardless of what has "happened" in the people’s lives, or what a certain individual has done in the past, one can choose specific behavior that will help him / her meet his/her needs more effectively in the future (http: //indigo. ie/~irti/whatis. htm, 2004). Also, according to the guidelines for effective counseling approaches, dissatisfying or non-existent relationships with others are the active ingredient when it comes to most psychological problems.
The focus is on developing and maintaining healthy interpersonal relationships, as well as on accepting personal responsibility for one’s behavior and making better choices (http: //www. cognitive-therapy-associates. com/therapy/reality-therapy. php, 2003). This just reflects on how counseling works. It uses the person’s past as the source of his need and ways of behaving. Nevertheless, the discussion of the therapist and the ‘patient” stays related to the present as much as possible, as the key issues for a person are rooted in current relationship problems (http: //www. cognitive-therapy-associates. com/therapy/reality-therapy. php, 2003). Furthermore, counseling is considered a practice involving two major components: (1) Creating a trusting environment; and (2) Using techniques which help a person discover what they really want, reflect on what they are doing now, and create a new plan for fulfilling that “want” more effectively in the future (http: //indigo. ie/~irti/whatis. htm, 2004). In counseling sessions, the person’s thoughts and actions are considered the most appropriate material to actively work on, as these are within a person’s control, rather than feelings or symptoms, which are affected by changes in made in the relevant thoughts and actions.
Blame and externalizing control are avoided, as these are viewed as impediments to developing healthy relationships. Regardless of the particular complaint, the best possible solution lies in improving connections with others, and specific changes in thoughts and behavior are made in the service of this goal (http: //www. cognitive-therapy-associates. com/therapy/reality-therapy. php, 2003). Counseling is viewed as a useful a powerful tool because it enhances one’s ability for personal growth, accomplishing goals, and measuring progress. Moreover, more counselors find it a user-friendly technique of asking key questions on each individual.
These key questions help an individual to self-examination. This process way of questioning compliments the idea of good goal setting in a way that these questions create or reinforce motivation as well as emphasizing the time that is passing and the level of progress made (http: //ms. essortment. com/therapyreality_rabt. htm, 2002).